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How to Build Trust with a Team You Didn't Hire

March 20267 min read

You didn't pick this team. You didn't interview them, you didn't choose them, and they didn't choose you. You've walked into a room full of people who have their own history, their own dynamics, their own way of doing things — and now you're supposed to lead them. This is one of the most common and most underestimated challenges a new manager faces: building trust with a team you've inherited. It's harder than building a team from scratch, because you're not starting from zero. You're starting from whatever came before you, and that baggage — good or bad — is now yours to deal with.

They're Watching Your Every Move

Let's get one thing straight from the start: your new team is assessing you just as much as you're assessing them. Probably more. They're watching how you walk into a room. They're listening to the words you choose. They're noting whether you're on time, whether you remember their names, whether you ask questions or just make statements. Every single thing you do in those first few weeks is being catalogued and discussed the moment you leave the room.

This isn't paranoia — it's human nature. They've had a manager before you, and that experience, for better or worse, has shaped their expectations. If the previous manager was brilliant, you've got big shoes to fill. If they were terrible, the team is bracing itself for more of the same. Either way, you are guilty until proven innocent. Accept that, and use it to your advantage. Every small, positive action is an opportunity to change the narrative.

The First 30 Days: Listen Before You Lead

The biggest mistake new managers make with an inherited team is coming in with a plan. You've been hired because someone believes you can make things better, and the temptation is to prove them right immediately. Resist it. The first 30 days should be almost entirely about listening, observing, and understanding. You need to earn the right to change things before you start changing them.

Start with individual one-to-ones. Book thirty minutes with every single team member in your first week. Not a group meeting — a private, one-on-one conversation. Your agenda is simple: ask them about their role, what they enjoy, what frustrates them, and what they need from a manager. Then shut up and listen. Take notes. Ask follow-up questions. Show genuine curiosity about their experience and their perspective.

The questions that unlock the most honest answers are often the simplest. Try these:

  1. "What's the one thing that works really well in this team that I should absolutely not change?" This shows you respect what came before you.
  2. "What's the one thing you'd change if you could?" This gives them permission to be honest about problems.
  3. "What do you need from me to do your best work?" This frames your role as a supporter, not a controller.
  4. "Is there anything you're worried about with this transition?" This opens the door to the concerns they're not saying out loud.

Earn Trust Through Consistency, Not Grand Gestures

Trust isn't built in a day. It's not the result of one big, flashy team-building event or a single inspiring speech. It's built in the small, everyday moments. It's the accumulation of consistent, predictable, and positive actions over time. Grand gestures can feel inauthentic if they're not backed up by daily behaviour.

Here are the unglamorous but essential habits that build real, lasting trust:

  1. Do what you say you will do. This is the absolute bedrock of trust. If you promise to look into an issue, do it. If you say you'll get back to someone by Friday, make sure you do. Every broken promise, no matter how small, is a crack in the foundation of trust.
  2. Be fair and transparent. Your team needs to know that you make decisions based on principles, not politics or favouritism. When you can, explain the 'why' behind your decisions, especially the unpopular ones. People are more likely to accept a decision they don't like if they understand the reasoning behind it.
  3. Have their back. When a mistake is made, a trusting manager takes responsibility as a team. They don't throw individuals under the bus. They defend their team from outside criticism and create a safe environment where people can take risks without fear of blame.
  4. Be a predictable manager. If your team never knows which version of you is going to show up — the happy, supportive boss or the stressed, critical one — it's impossible for them to feel safe. Emotional consistency is a superpower for a new manager.

Handling the Team Member Who Wanted Your Job

This is one of the most common and delicate challenges for a new manager. There's a good chance someone on your new team applied for your job and didn't get it. They might be feeling resentful, disappointed, or even actively hostile. Ignoring this won't make it go away. You need to address it head-on, with empathy and strategic thinking.

Here's a simple, three-step approach:

  1. Address the elephant in the room. In a private one-on-one, acknowledge the situation directly but gently. You could say something like, 'I know you were interested in this role, and I can imagine it's a bit awkward having me here now. I really value your experience on this team, and I want to figure out how we can work together effectively.' This shows you're not afraid of the difficult conversation.
  2. Give them ownership and visibility. This person is likely ambitious and capable. The best way to win them over is to show that you're not threatened by their talent. Delegate a meaningful project that allows them to demonstrate their skills. Ask for their opinion in team meetings. This shows you see them as a valuable asset, not a rival.
  3. Become their ally. Take a genuine interest in their career goals. Ask them where they want to be in a few years and how you can help them get there. By actively supporting their development, you can transform a potential adversary into your most powerful ally.

The Long Game of Trust

Building trust with a team you've inherited is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be good days and bad days. There will be moments when you feel like you're making progress, and moments when you feel like you're back at square one. The key is to be patient, persistent, and, above all, authentic. People can spot a fake a mile off. Be yourself, be consistent, and be committed to the team's success.

Remember, trust is the currency of leadership. It's earned in drips and lost in buckets. Invest in it every single day, and you'll build a team that is not only effective but also resilient, engaged, and willing to follow you anywhere. You didn't hire this team, but with patience and the right approach, they'll become yours — and you'll become theirs.

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